“Wrestling Rules For Life”





Wrestling Rules for Life

I never won a National Championship.

I have never been an All-American.

I never won a State Championship or even a Sectional Championship.

Heck, I don’t even have cauliflower ear.

Not even on one ear.

But 36 years after wrestling my last match I still consider myself a wrestler.

That is because wrestling to me is more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.

For the longest time, 26 years to be exact, I wanted nothing to do with the sport as I felt the sport took everything I had and gave me back nothing in return.

I pledged I would never let my kids wrestle as I never wanted them to experience the pain that I did from this sport.

But something brought me back.

And my kids did wrestle.

And 26 years after leaving the sport I would come to realize what this sport has given back to me in my life.

When I needed it the most.

It taught me how to fight against unbearable adversity.

To have an unbreakable will.

And to be delusionally optimistic, among many other things.

I’ve experienced this sport from every angle.

I was a wrestler myself for six years.

I’ve been a father of a wrestler for ten years.

I’ve been a father of a wrestling coach for three years.

I’ve been a coach all my life.

And I will forever be a fan of this sport.

Looking back over my time in this sport, it is clear to me that there are two types of former wrestlers.

Wrestlers who successfully bridged into life by applying the discipline and principles they learned on the mat, and those wrestlers who hadn’t.

I noticed that it didn’t matter what a wrestler’s accolades were, each type of former wrestler existed at every level of success or non-success in the sport.

I am amazed at the disparity of the quality of life between the wrestlers who had applied the principals they lived on the mat and those who didn’t.

The wrestlers who didn’t never used their resources to propel them into life to be able to handle the adversities life would throw at them.

They seemed to be beaten by the exact principles wrestling taught.

How ironic, the very people who lived the principles on the mat didn’t apply them off the mat.

I have been blessed with the understanding that wrestling is much more than a sport, it is a lifestyle.

That has been invaluable to my life.

It has made such a difference in the quality of my life.

So much so, that I feel compelled to share the principles that I’ve learned.

My hope is that these principles will ring true to wrestlers who need them the most.

Champions who need help in life.

My other hope is to bring homage to a sport that when all the accounting is complete has given to me more than I gave to it.

And I gave it everything I had.

And in return, it gave me everything that I am.

I am a wrestler.

I’ve lived for 6 years on the mat.

And a lifetime off the mat.

“Wrestling Rules For Life” are the principles that have been so valuable to me.

Here are the

Wrestling Rules for Life
  1. Don’t Beat Yourself
  2. Dream Big Dreams
  3. Believe Before
  4. Be Yourself
  5. Nobody Can Want It More for You Than You Want It for Yourself
  6. The Odds Should Be Respected but Not Believed
  7. Be Delusionally Optimistic
  8. Have the And 1 Attitude
  9. Everything Matters
  10. Live In the Zone
  11. Surround Yourself with Great People with Like-Minded Goals
  12. Feed the Good
  13. Pick the Right Partner
  14. Iron Sharpens Iron
  15. Make Your Teammates Better
  16. Be Coachable
  17. Earned Not Given
  18. Hard Work Wins
  19. Nobody Outworks You
  20. Your Confidence Will be In Direct Proportion to Your Preparedness
  21. 99% Effort Is Not Enough
  22. You Can’t Fool Yourself
  23. Give Everything or Get Nothing
  24. Get 1% Better Every Day
  25. Do Your Everyday’s Every Day
  26. Push Beyond Your Limits Daily
  27. Be the Guy Who Sets the Bar
  28. Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
  29. Impose Your Will
  30. Never Bet Against an Underdog Who Has the Heart of a Champion
  31. Prioritize or Agonize
  32. Always Choose the Harder Option
  33. Weigh Everything
  34. Delay Gratification
  35. Always Move Forward
  36. You Win, or You Learn
  37. Take Complete and Absolute Ownership
  38. Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice
  39. Blame Is a Losers Game
  40. Figure It Out
  41. Trust Yourself
  42. Make Adjustments, Not Excuses
  43. Deep in the Difficult You Will Find the Best Version of Yourself
  44. You’ve Got to Love the Taste of Blood
  45. Find A Way
  46. Be at Your Best When You Feel Your Worst
  47. Be Able to do More with Less
  48. Be Unwilling to Quit
  49. Be Unbreakable
  50. Put Your Toe on the Line, and You Fight Like Hell
  51. Be the First One Back to the Circle
  52. Improve Your Position
  53. Score the Next 2 Points
  54. You Will Not Always Get Paid for Your Work, Work Hard Anyway
  55. Don’t Let Defeat be Victorious
  56. Be Incapable of Discouragement
  57. You’ve Got to Get Through the Suck
  58. Always Believe
  59. Stay the Course
  60. Trust in One Thing, The Power of Your Own Will
  61. When You Can’t Do Anymore, You Still Have More to Give
  62. Never Quit. Never, Means Not Ever
  63. There Is an Open Circle
  64. It Is Going to Take More Than One Effort
  65. Natural Talent Without Work, Time and Grit Will Go Unfulfilled
  66. Don’t Let One Loss Beat You Twice
  67. It Has to Hurt
  68. Pain Is Your Greatest Teacher
  69. Pain Endured is Strength Stored
  70. Never Lose the Bruises from Your Greatest Loss
  71. Always Be In Relentless Pursuit of Excellence
  72. It Is Simple But Not Easy
  73. Don’t Let Victory Defeat You
  74. Be Humble or Be Ready to be Humbled
  75. Respect the Sport, and the Sport Will Respect You
  76. Don’t Take the Bait
  77. Your Nights Must Be Friends with Your Days
  78. The Universe Is Watching When No One is There
  79. Live Your Life in a Way So People Root for Your Success
  80. There is No Guarantee of Success
  81. You Don’t Get What You Deserve. You Only Get What You Earn
  82. Be More Proud Than Disappointed
  83. Trust in the Process
  84. Trust in the Universe It Knows What It Is Doing
  85. The Reward You Seek May Not be the Reward You Receive
  86. Become the Best Version of Yourself
  87. Have Great Balance
  88. Your Journey Is Specifically Designed for You




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  1. My husband is a high school wrestling coach and was hoping to give his seniors Wrestling Rules for Life as a gift at their dinner. March 14 is the dinner, is there anyway to get 5 copies by then?


    • Lisa, the book is scheduled to be released on March 15th. Add shipping time and the overlap is a few days off. If you would like I can send it directly to each wrestler as soon as it becomes available. They should receive it with a week of the dinner.


  2. I preordered your book back in February and have yet to receive the ebook copy. Is that version going to be released the same date as the hard copy?


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